Have you ever joined a gym and stopped going after only a week or two? Has your new diet only lasted a few days and then you have succumbed to those temptation foods? This temporary motivation is so common that the gym industry survives on a massive percentage of its members paying but not coming. If all the members started coming to the gym I work at we would need four times the space and equipment we have!
Why does this happen?
Motivation is often a short-term feeling that can quickly dissolve if we don’t have the right mindset. How can we get in the right mindset? We need to build desire for our goals and be driven to achieve them. It isn’t enough to just want them.
1. How Many Times Can You Answer the Question Why?
Let’s pretend you are being interviewed about your goal, it might go something like this:
What is your goal?
– To lose weight
Why do you want to lose weight?
– To look better
Why do you want to look better?
– To be more attractive
Why do you want to look more attractive?
– To find a partner
Why do you want to find a partner?
You can see where this is going. With every step, the reason becomes a little deeper and a little more emotional. Eventually, you can reach a very personal and strong emotional reason why you what to achieve your goal. Making this connection between “what” you want and “why” you want it can be very powerful and all too often missed by most people.
2. Pain vs Pleasure
Normally, our goals are based around moving away from pain or moving towards pleasure. Pain can often be a stronger push but we will look at pleasure separately in a minute. Can you identify a pain that influences your goal? It might be a photo that you saw of yourself recently where you really noticed how different you look. Maybe someone mentioned your weight and it really got you down. Maybe you tried to put an old shirt on and it didn’t fit any longer. These events can often be big catalysts for change if you can identify them and decide you want things different. Does anything come to mind for you?
3. Imagine the Outcome
Can you imagine how you will look when you reach your goal? How do you think you will feel? What will others say to you? The more vivid the image of your outcome the stronger your desire will be. Some of the most driven people that come to the gym are brides to be. Why? They imagine their outcome so vividly that they are determined to achieve it. Some people may do a vision wall to help. However, you go about it. Focus on your end result like you have already achieved it and you will have far more success. Hopefully one of these methods resonates with you or it may even be a combination of a few of them that does the trick. In any case, by taking the time to focus on why you have the goals that you do and why you want to achieve them, I’m sure you will have far greater success with your training and diet.